As usual, you have 10 questions to think about this month. These are questions to help you reflect about yourself, what you want from life and what can bring you more happiness.
You can see November’s questions here and December’s questions here.
- You are lucky; how so or not so?
It’s good to think of reasons why you’re lucky. Sometimes we don’t realise that there’s always a reason to consider ourselves lucky. You can read more about luck in my post Accept Your Luck.
- Where do you want to travel next?
This might help you plan your next holiday or adventure and motivate you to save money towards it.
- Are you holding a grudge? About?
If you are, it might be time to let go. Holding grudges causes harm only to yourself and no one else.
- What are you looking forward to?
Thinking about good things that are yet to come can brighten up your day and make you feel more cheerful about life.
- Do you need a break? From what?
Is it from your work? Get a day off. From your city? Go for a weekend away. From your partner? Go out with your friends or have some time alone. From life? Meditate, go for a walk around nature.
- Are you seeking security or adventure?
When you decide your priority, it’s easy to make decisions. Do I spend my money travelling or saving to buy a house?
- If you were going to start your own company, what would it be?
Maybe you don’t want to start your own business but answering this makes it easier to think about your passion and what you really want to work with.
- What makes “you” you?
Whatever makes “you” you shouldn’t be something that needs changed. Accept who you are and be around people who accept you.
- How do you describe home?
Home is where the heart is 🙂
- What do you want to forget?
Write all the details about this memory, talk or write about it for as long as you need one last time. Then let go.
Taken from the book Q&A a day – a 5 year journal.
I’ve learned this from a TED talk by Brené Brown. She carried out a research and found out vulnerability is what makes people feel loved and belonging. The talk is really interesting and it’s so easy to relate to her, especially when she talks about her having a breakdown after getting to these results. Watch it, it really is worth it!
You should definitely watch this talk but here are some parts that I believe were particularly useful and I would like to remember. No quotation marks because it’s not exactly what she said but more of a summary:
What whole-hearted people have in common is courage, compassion, connection and vulnerability. Courage means to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. This people have the courage to be imperfect, they have the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others. They are willing to let go of what they should be in order to be who they are. They embrace vulnerability, for example, having the willingness to say ‘I love you’ first.
What we shouldn’t do: Numb vulnerability (we can’t numb those hard feelings without numbing joy) and make the uncertain certain.
What we should do: Let ourselves be seen, love with our whole hearts even when there are no guarantees, knowing that we are imperfect but worthy of love and belonging and knowing that we are enough.
“HERE IS THE MIRACLE…
Every January 1rst — whether you’ve earned it or not —they give you a brand new year for FREE. Imagine it! A completely fresh year — with no dinks on it, no scuff-marks, no cat hair, no spills, no collisions, no breakdowns, no funny odors, no mistakes, no failures, no parts falling off it, no nothing. Just an amazing new year (with that terrific “new year smell”) which you can use it for ANYTHING YOU LIKE! Not only that, you are allowed to throw away your old year completely — which, if you are like me, you have always completely totaled by Dec 31. You just get to push that beat-up and tired old year off a cliff, and drive away in your bright, shiny new one…and it costs you nothing. Nothing at all. They just give it to you, every year that you live.
Amazing and generous, is the prize of a new year.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
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