Some people are blessed with this certainty about what they want to do with their lives from an early age. However, if you, like me and most people, are not one of those lucky ones, you might benefit from this post. I am not even going to talk about how you HAVE to work with something you love in this post. I’m just going to give you some steps to find out what is it that you love. There are 5 questions that you need to ask yourself:
- The first and most obvious question is: If you were a millionaire and didn’t have to work for money. What would you do with your time? What kind of job would you do for free?
- If that didn’t help much, think about the games you played when you were a child. They can say a lot about you. I used to love pretending I was a teacher.
Now, there are some games that all children used to play: cars, dolls, superheroes, hide and seek, tag, video games, etc. Therefore, you need to think about the unusual ones you used to like. For example, I also liked to stand at my balcony counting how many people were wearing each type of clothes, quite unusual for a kid. This actually shows my tendency towards research. My brother used to spend loads of his time drawing cars and air-conditioning equipment. It’s like he was meant to be a mechanic engineer. What unusual activities did you like when you were a kid?
- Next question is only for those who read. Besides fiction, what kind of books interest you? What do you like to read about? It could be articles as well. I always loved reading about psychology. Once I found a book that made a link between psychology and yoga. For me, it was the best book I’ve ever read, I couldn’t put it down.
- What other things are important to you? One of the things that made me want to be a teacher is flexible working hours and lack of routine. I have to use the computer a lot but my job doesn’t require me to stay glued to a computer inside an office. 9-to-5 jobs would drive me crazy. Maybe you’re the opposite. Maybe you want security and all weekends free. Maybe you want to work outside. What little things matter to you?
- What kind of people do you like to spend your time with? It doesn’t seem like this matters but it really does! Think about it. If you work the usual amount of hours, during your working week, you spend almost 50% of your waking time with the people you work with. If they are the kind of people that get on your nerves, it’s definitely going to have an impact on how you feel about your job. Also consider that you might want to work alone depending on your personality.
If you still don’t know, that’s also okay because…
A bit late but here it goes, 10 brand new questions to make you think this month.
- On a scale of one to ten, how sad are you? Why?
One of the questions in December was the opposite of this one, it was how happy instead of how sad. This question is important because one is not exactly the opposite of the other. There’s something in the middle between being happy and sad. So even if you gave 5 for happy, it doesn’t mean you’ll give 5 for sad.
- What is your resolution for tomorrow?
You can think of tomorrow as an abstract concept. What is your resolution for the future? What steps do you need to take to complete it?
- Are you seeking contentment or excitement?
Again, this is one of those questions that might help you make decisions in the future. It can make you think long-term wishes rather than immediate gains.
- Are you in love?
This question is important in both situations: if you’re single or in a relationship. That’s because if you’re single and your answer is ‘yes’, you have to think about what it means to you and what you should do about it. If you’re in a relationship and your answer is ‘no’ then something is not quite right. If it’s the other way around then everything is how it should be =)
- What is your biggest obstacle right now?
And what can you do to remove it? Or at least go round it.
- What are three things you have to buy?
The key word here is ‘have’, not ‘want’ but ‘have’. If you really have to buy it then go ahead and do it or start saving for it. Otherwise, think twice. Do you really need it? Is it worthy of the price? You might want to write your shopping list here but try to think beyond that. Maybe you don’t really have to buy anything.
- Write down the cure for a broken heart.
It might come in handy in the future. Although let’s hope not lol. This one is more for entertaining purposes.
- If you could change something about today, what would it be?
Reflecting about your day and how you feel helps you reflect about yourself and what you can do to be better.
- What’s the most expensive thing you’re wearing now?
This one follows the same principle of number 6. Why is it expensive? Did you buy it or was it a present? If you bought it, was it necessary to spend that much money? Or maybe you’ll find out that you haven’t spent that much money on anything at all which might make you feel better about your financial decisions.
- What’s the last dream you remember?
Dreams can actually say a lot about you. No, they won’t predict your future but they represent your present. Your dreams reflect your feelings in real life. If you’ve been having nightmares, you’re probably really stressed and anxious in your daily life.