Life is short and we shouldn’t waste it. The worst thing you can do is be a slave of your own rules. “I need to finish all books I start.”, “What will people think if I just stand up and go?”, “I can’t leave my house without putting make-up on.”, “If I’m different, everyone will stare at me.” Even the rules we made up for ourselves are there to be broken.
It’s normal to have guidelines to live by as long as they are part of happiness, not a cause of anxiety or stress. When we break our own rules, we sometimes find a new side of us that was there all along but we didn’t allow to come to surface.
In a previous post, I highlighted how important it is to do something different and this might be one of the best ways to do it. Break your patterns, invent new rules, let yourself be free from your own judgement.
You are your worst enemy sometimes and your judgement can be harshest than anyone else’s so just let yourself off the hook.
- Breaking the Rules (eviwestmusic.wordpress.com)
- Why I Love Changes (happiness-box.com)
I used to feel down about every little thing that didn’t work out. I would get stressed and upset and sometimes even panic. Then I started to look back and I realized that some little things that upset me earlier in my life ended up being for the best. You never know what the future will bring and sometimes you can get more if things don’t go as expected.
“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.” – Dalai Lama
I have been trying to keep this in mind all the time and I don’t feel as stressed as I used to. Here are two examples of bad things that ended up being good:
1. Not getting a room
When I was in Cardiff, I had to find a place to stay and I decided to take this room. I sent an email to the guy but he didn’t see it and gave the room to someone else. I got really stressed at the time but it ended up being for the best. I decided to move from Cardiff and got a job as a teacher in Oxford which was what I wanted. If I had stayed in Cardiff, I’d probably still be working at a nightclub since there are not many teaching jobs there.
2. Being kicked out
Fate works in funny ways. My friend had to leave her house and had nowhere to go so she ended up going home to her grandpa’s house. She spent a few weeks with him before getting a job and finding another place. About one month after my friend left, her grandpa got really ill and after some time in hospital, he passed away. If my friend hadn’t been kicked out, she wouldn’t have spent those last few weeks with her grandpa. That time they spent together meant everything to her.
Now when I don’t get the job or the room or when I’m forced to move out or when something is cancelled, I always think: it might be for the best.