“You’ve got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you’re not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice.”
— Steven D. Woodhull
This is one of the most amazing quotes ever, in my opinion. This should be like a mantra that we should remember every day.
Life is too short to waste doing things we don’t enjoy and being with people that don’t make us happy. I remember I used to hear this all the time when I was younger: “That’s the way life is, you have to do things you don’t want.” When you think about small things, this is true. I don’t particularly like doing the dishes and cleaning my house but I have to do it. However, when we look at the bigger picture, this saying couldn’t be more wrong. You don’t have to spend your life in a job you don’t love or with people who don’t appreciate you or living in a place you hate. You should fight and find what you love.
If you’re not happy with your situation, something is wrong. It’s not okay to live your life waiting for something. I’m going to be happy when I move away. I’m going to be happy when I finish this course. I’m going to be happy when I have more money. NO! The time to be happy is now. If you’re not happy with your current situation, you have two choices: change it or accept it. By accepting it, I don’t mean settling but actually finding happiness in what you have, enjoying the journey.
I have a new habit, wherever I am and whatever I am doing, I like to think: “One day I’m going to remember this time of my life with a smile on my face.”
Even though things are never perfect, there’s always something good that you’re going to miss. At the same time, if changes occur in your life, there’s always something bad that you finally get rid of.
I am originally from Brazil but I’m currently living in Oxford. Every time I go back to Brazil on holidays, I have this strange feeling that I don’t fit there anymore.
At first, it seemed crazy, I lived in Brazil most of my life and I have only been living in Oxford for two years. So, I thought a lot about it and the conclusion I reached is that I had never actually fit in Brazil. I have always felt that I didn’t belong there. There’s nothing wrong with Brazil, on the contrary, it is a wonderful country. Many people think Brazil is a great place to live. The truth is that when I lived there, I never thought I didn’t belong there, I just thought I didn’t belong anywhere. That’s because I didn’t know anything different from the life I had there.
Nowhere is perfect. If you expect it to be, you will never be satisfied anywhere. There are things that are better in Brazil and other things that are better in England but the important part was to weigh the things that were important to me, my priorities. According to my priorities, Oxford is a better place to live at the moment (although not the best). But I am well aware that Oxford is not the best place to live for everyone. There are actually many Brazilians that come to live here and can’t wait to go back.
A proof of that is that people from England constantly ask me “Why the hell would you want to leave Brazil?”. But at the same time, people from Brazil ask me how they can move to England and say how lucky I am to be able to live here.
The best place to live is the place that satisfies your most important priorities. They say the best place to live in the world is Vienna in Austria but I’m sure a surfer wouldn’t think so.