Why I Love Changes

“To be interested in the changing seasons is a happier state of mind than to be hopelessly in love with spring.” — George Santayana

Personally, I love the change of seasons. The spring is so happy and colourful, I love sunbathing and wearing dresses in the summer, the fall is absolutely beautiful and in the winter I can look so elegant with boots and scarves or cute with earmuffs.

However, this quote is much deeper than just seasons. I think the idea here is that you will be much happier if you embrace changes and find a way to enjoy them than if you hold on to a temporary state as if it’s permanent and the only way you feel happy.

Changes are natural and they are part of life. The seasons are a perfect example of this. You can’t expect to live in the summer forever so you need to find pleasure in all seasons. Maybe you don’t like the elegant clothes in the winter but you can still enjoy staying in and drinking a hot chocolate while snugging your blanket.

I have to admit it’s easy for me to say because I’ve always been fond of changes. I love those days before travelling when I walk down a street and think “I won’t be walking down here for a while”. But I think even if you’re not a lover of changes like me, you can still try to accept it and see the positive side of it.

Changes make us grow and make life more meaningful. We always remember those days when something unexpected happened. It becomes a memory and even if it’s a bad one, it still brings meaning to life and makes it more interesting.

 

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30 Wise Pieces Of Advice From Bro Tips

Brotips is a website with words of wisdom and advice for bros all over the world. Most of the time it’s just hilarious but some of the tips are really good pieces of advice, not only for bros but for everyone. So here are 30 pieces of advice that actually came from Bro Tips:

  1. Act like you’re awesome.
  2. Your past is just your past.
  3. Do something for the first time every day.
  4. Don’t take out your frustration on people that are there for you.
  5. Never make decisions when you’re angry. Or horny.
  6. 90% of the things you worry about will never happen.
  7. Don’t let anyone tell you how to live your life.
  8. Anything that comes easily in life is usually not worth doing.
  9. Flip coins to make decisions, don’t worry about the result. You’ll know what you’re hoping for as soon as it leaves your hand.
  10. If you bite off more than you can chew, fucking chew it anyway.
  11. Do what you’ve been waiting to do, in case “someday” never comes.
  12. Why not?
  13. Happiness is attractive.
  14. Kill your doubts.
  15. Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity.
  16. Before asking someone why they hate you, ask yourself why you even care.
  17. Do you. Trying to please everyone will leave no one happy.
  18. Let your past make you better, not bitter.
  19. One phrase everyone should be able to utilize: “eh, fuck it”.
  20. Some of the best moments in life come from doing things that scare you the most.
  21. If you have to constantly ask yourself if something is worth, it’s probably not.
  22. No one looks back on their life and remembers the nights they got plenty of sleep.
  23. If you weren’t you, would you want to be your bro?
  24. Your first instinct is usually right.
  25. Don’t spend all your time analysing.
  26. The hardest thing to say is usually worth saying.
  27. It’s never worth it to give up what you want most for what you want now.
  28. Smile no matter what.
  29. Make today awesome. Don’t live it like it’s your last day, live it like it’s today.
  30. You have to let people live their lives, even if you think they’re doing it wrong.

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4 Things You Don’t Have To Do To Be Happy

Many people believe that these four things are part of life. You can’t escape them. Everyone must follow this pattern. It’s just the way it is.

Yes, all the items in this list can bring happiness. However, you don’t need any of these things to be happy. You can choose to follow this or not and it’s your decision. Don’t let society convince you to do any of those things. Think carefully about them and decide if they are for you or not. Because one things is true: they are not for everyone. People are different and they have the right to choose a different path. No one’s path is the same.

1. You don’t have to have a religion. 

But whatever you decide to do, there are some things to consider:

Don’t judge people because of their (lack of) religion.
Don’t let someone else (not even your parents) choose your religion or what you believe in. It’s something very personal.
Don’t be arrogant about it and don’t try to convince others that you’re right and they’re wrong.
And most importantly, don’t hurt people in any way because of your choices.

2. You don’t have to get  a job. 

This might sound crazy. How can I survive if I don’t have a job?

Fortunately, there are many ways to make money that don’t involve getting a job.

Steve Pavlina wrote a great eye-opening article about it and you can read it here.

3. You don’t have to get married.

For some people, a wedding is a dream come true. But sometimes people get married for all the wrong reasons.

It’s tempting to get married because everyone you know is getting married or you are afraid to be alone or it’s an ‘easier’ and sometimes cheaper way to live.

However, getting out of a marriage is much more complicated than getting in.

It’s not only about love. You can love each other and even live together and be happy but not get married.

If marriage is really important to you in a deeper way, fair enough. If not, think twice.

4. You don’t have to have kids.

This is one of the most important ones. Having kids is a huge responsibility and there are so many people that should never do it.

This is different from getting married. Here you should not only ask yourself if this is what you really want but also ask yourself if you’re ready and if you have what it takes.

You’re responsible for raising, educating and loving a person and depending on the job you do, you can either make this world a better place or a worse place. So if you do decide to have kids, make sure you’re raising them to make this world better.

Let go of control

“If you can’t control it, let it go.” 

That’s my favourite zen saying.

Letting go of control is a challenge. It requires a lot of practice. The truth is that life is unstable and it’s impossible to control what’s going to happen. Sometimes we have the false impression that we are in control but the truth is we are not. Life is unpredictable and anything can happen anytime, good or bad.

We can’t control other people and we can’t control the outcome of situations so we have to stop trying or we will only get frustrated and disappointed.

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature…Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller

If we accept the way things are, we can find peace.

That doesn’t mean we should settle for less in life. If there’s something you can do to change a bad situation or make things better, do it. If there’s nothing you can do at the moment, let go.

Happiness And Things I Learned From Buddhism

There are only two basic things that everybody wants: be happy and avoid suffering. If you think about it, all the other things are included in those two. If it’s that simple, why is it so difficult to be happy?

I’ll tell you why: because people don’t know what really makes them happy.

If something is a cause of happiness, it can never be a cause of suffering or pain. If you eat something delicious, it will bring you pleasure. If you eat it too much, it will give you a stomachache. You might love your job but if you work too much, you’ll be exhausted. And so on.

Therefore, none of these things can actually make you happy.

Nothing that you have or even that you do can make you happy. Only what you feel can bring real happiness.

You can feel love, compassion, respect, forgiveness, patience as much as you want and it will never cause you pain. Good feelings are the only true cause of happiness.