7 Ways To Test Your Happiness

This is not my post, I took it from a men’s health magazine. The test and results are not very relevant. The important part is the pieces of scientific research given after each question. However, the answers to the questions make you think about how you’re living your life. I left the results here but I honestly don’t think they are important. Thinking about your own attitude and deciding how you feel is much more relevant to your happiness.

Are You Happy?

1. How would you describe your MP3 playlist?

A) Full of escape songs.

B) Fast and furious. I get pumped up.

C) Thoughtful. I can relate to the lyrics.

Odele may be awesome, but she’s bringing you down. Moody music leads to self-focus, and that reinforces sad moods, says Jeffrey Green, Ph.D., a social-psychology professor at Virginia Commonwealth University. A better playlist: jam-band music, like Phish.

 

2. How often do you send text messages?

A) It’s practically my only way of communicating.

B) I use it as a fast way to be in touch.

C) I still prefer phone or email.

According to the Journal of Applied Social Psychology, text message addicts are less satisfied with their lives than people who use conventional communications. Instant messaging isn’t as good at building the strong relationships that sustain happiness, says Melanie Green, Ph.D., a psychology professor at the University of North Carolina.

 

3. How did your mom raise you?

A) She was more like a friend than like a parent.

B) I felt like a Brady kid. I always knew my needs came first.

C) Sad to say, she wasn’t ready to be a mom.

A study at the University College of London surveyed 356 young adults and found that warm maternal care significantly correlated to high self-esteem and low self-criticism, both of which are linked to happiness. If it’s too late to get that from Mom, make sure you marry well, and cultivate a supportive group of friends and mentors.

 

4. When shopping for a new television, you . . .

A) Debate it for a few weeks.

B) Head for superstore. Lay down credit card.

C) Shop around. Forever.

Unhappy people exhaustively search through every option for almost every decision, according to Kennon Sheldon, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Missouri. And although those obsessives may end up with a better deal, they also bring more stress into their lives and are ultimately less content with their decisions, according to Sheldon.

 

5. You would rather buy a . . .

A) High-end watch.

B) Bicycle, kayak, or backpack.

C) Leather couch.

Instead of “having,” focus on “doing.” Investing money in experiences makes people happier than buying material possessions can, according to the journal Review of General Psychology. The thrill of a big purchase fades, but the social relationships built during an adventure endure.

 

6. What’s your strategy when it comes to dinner?

A) I fit it in when there’s time.

B) I prepare my meals at home as best I can.

C) I pick up fast food on the road.

Dinner may be the easiest way to improve your mood. Two-thirds of people say a good meal in a calm environment is a major source of happiness, according to the Journal of Happiness Studies. So, regardless of what you can cook, eat it at home. Avoid the burger-land franchises. “Fast-food restaurants are depressing places,” says Christopher Peterson, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Michigan. “Even the people who work there are demoralized.”

 

7. When someone opens a door for you, you . . .

A) Say thank you.

B) Nod your head and move on.

C) Expect it as common behavior and don’t really acknowledge it.

Gratitude is a huge predictor of happiness, and showing it verbally makes a big difference. “It changes your mindset,” says Peterson. “We take the good for granted, but if the bad is all we pay attention to, life is going to be a very grim business.” However, saying thank you boosts mood by making you more aware of good things in life. And it has a sustained effect if you say it on a regular basis. Why not start right now?

 

Scoring:

1) A=3, B=2, C=1

2) A=1, B=2, C=3

3) A=2, B=3, C=1

4) A=2, B=3, C=1

5) A=1, B=3, C=2

6) A=2, B=3, C=1

7) A=3, B=2, C=1

 

17 to 21 points 
Are you on something? Would you share?

11 to 16 points 
You probably have good and bad weeks. Tip the scales in your favor by being more optimistic. If you think positively, you’re more likely to make good things happen. And, as a bonus, optimists have a 55 percent lower risk of early death than pessimists, so your happy mood may last a while.

7 to 10 points 
Unhappy with your score? It figures. Check the questions where you bottomed out, and follow the implicit strategies. Better smileage is within your reach.

Source: http://www.menshealth.com/health/are-you-happy/page/4

From this, we can make a list of seven things that make a difference to your happiness:

  1. The music you listen to
  2. The direct contact you have with people
  3. Your relationship with your parents
  4. Your ability to make decisions
  5. Your shopping habits
  6. Your eating habits
  7. Your gratitude

    I definitely need to work on number 4. What about you?

 

Why You Should Love Those Freckles

“Let someone love you just as you are. As flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you might feel, as unaccomplished as you might think you are. And let that someone be you.” – Sandra King

Sometimes it’s much easier to love and forgive others than yourself. We use words with ourselves that we’d never ever use to speak with others. ‘I can’t believe you did this. You’re so stupid.’ ‘You’re useless’ ‘You can’t do anything right.’ Would you say something similar to this to your friends? So why say it to yourself? You should be your own friend. When you love yourself, you emanate a different energy that makes others like to be around you. It’s like a cycle. So make this your resolution for next year: Love Yourself.

Here are 5 self-love songs to help you work on that:

Pink – F*cking Perfect

You’re so mean when you talk
About yourself. You were wrong.
Change the voices in your head
Make them like you instead.

India.Arie – Video

When I look in the mirror and the only one there is me
Every freckle on my face is where it’s suppose to be
And I know my creator didn’t make no mistakes on me
My feet, my thighs, my Lips, my eyes, I’m loving what I see

Christina Aguilera – Beautiful

I am beautiful no matter what they say
Words can’t bring me down
I am beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can’t bring me down… Oh no
So don’t you bring me down today

Lady Gaga – Born This Way

“There’s nothing wrong with loving who you are”
She said, “‘Cause he made you perfect, babe”
“So hold your head up girl and you’ll go far

Don’t hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you’re set
I’m on the right track, baby
I was born this way

I am not a fan of Lady Gaga but I think these lyrics are kind of awesome so I found this clip from Glee. I really like the idea of the T-shirts:

Mariah Carey – Hero

So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you’ll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you

Songs To Listen To After A Break-up

I know some people like to listen to sad songs about love after a break-up but because I’ve always tried to fight this sadness and depression, I found other types of song to listen to after a break-up, more empowering than sad. Let’s be honest, most of these songs are no masterpieces. However, their lyrics can be really empowering. They talk about having confidence instead of feeling sorry for yourself, they talk about being strong instead of getting down.

So here is my list of 12 songs to listen to when someone breaks your heart:

1. Beyonce – Best Thing You Never Had

“You don’t deserve my tears, I guess that’s why they ain’t there.”

“Thank God I found the good in goodbye.”

 

2. Justin Timberlake – What Goes Around…Comes Around

 

3. Aerosmith – Don’t Get Mad, Get Even

4. Timbaland ft. One Republic – Apologize

“Tell me that you’re sorry, didn’t think I’d turn around and say ‘It’s too late to apologize'”

“I loved you with a fire red, now it’s turning blue.”

 

5- Kelly Clarkson – Since U Been Gone

“But since you’ve been gone, I can breathe for the first time.”

“You had your chance, you blew it. Out of sight, out of mind.”

 

6- Richie Kotzen – Let’s Say Goodbye

“Look in my eyes and I’ll know it’s over and I will go on from right here with the rest of my life.”

 

7- Lúcia Moniz ft Nuno Bettencourt – Try Again

“I can’t believe you’d say these things if you’re in love with me. Try again.

I never thought you’d ever say those awful things to me. Try again.”

 

8 – Jennifer Lopez ft LL Cool J – All I Have

“It’s such a shame but I’m leaving, can’t take the way you mistreated me.”

“My pride is all I have. You’ll be needing me but too bad.”

 

9 – Joss Stone – You Had Me

Hey listen, you’ll be missing out on my love and my kissing.”

“You had me, you lost me, you’re wasted, you cost me. I don’t want you here messing with my mind.”

10 – Beyonce – Irreplaceable

“I can have another you by tomorrow. So don’t you ever for a second get to thinking you’re irreplaceable.”

“So since I’m not you’re everything, how about I’ll be nothing?”

 

11- Christina Perri – Jar Of Hearts

“Don’t you know I’m not your ghost anymore? You lost the love I loved the most.”

“I have grown too strong to ever fall back in your arms.”

12- The Corrs – I Never Loved You Anyway

“I can’t believe I endured you for as long as I did.

I’m happy it’s over, I’m only sorry that I didn’t make the move before you.”

 

And two extra ones if you’re really angry:

Cee Lo Green – Fuck You

Eamon – Fuck It (I Don’t Want You Back)

Click here for my list of happy songs =)

10 Happy Songs

When we are feeling down, sometimes we just want to put on our headphones and mope while listening to sad songs. But what we really should be doing is listen to happy songs. I always have a happy playlist on my iPod or Spotify or whatever I use to listen to music and I try to listen to it as often as possible. So here is a compilation of 10 songs that will lift your mood:

  1. Corinne Bailey Rae – Put Your Records On: Since we are talking about music, nothing better than this great advice “Girl (or boy), put your records on, tell me your favourite song, you go ahead, let your hair down” . Doesn’t it make you want to play your favourite song and dance away on a sunny day? 

 

  1. Sheryl Crow – All I Wanna Do:There are many reasons for a song to be happy, maybe the melody, maybe the lyrics. In this case, the lyrics definitely play a big part. When I listen to this song, I always think that this should be the whole point of life, just have some fun.

 

  1. Bobby McFerrin – Don’t Worry Be Happy: Who doesn’t know this one? It’s like a mantra of happiness. You can learn some rules of happiness through this song.      1-“In every life we have some trouble when you worry you make it double”.        2- “When you worry your face will frown and that will bring everybody down”.      3-“It will soon pass whatever it is.”

 

  1. Bruno Mars – The Lazy Song: This is such a cheerful song. And don’t you just love those lazy days when you can sit around and do nothing? Even though it doesn’t make any sense because of the lyrics, this is actually my wakeup alarm. It just makes me want to sing and move my head from side to side or back and forth.

 

  1. Blink 182 – All The Small Things: Another cheerful song that makes you want to jump. But this one reminds me of my teenage years. Plus the video is funny.

 

  1. Bob Marley – Three Little Birds: Another happiness mantra. How can you not feel at least a little bit better when listening to this song?

 

  1. Jack Johnson – Banana Pancakes: This is my official morning song. After my wakeup alarm I need something relaxing. I think this is one of the most relaxing songs ever. All Jack Johnson’s song are pretty relaxing, this is my personal favourite though. Also good to remember to appreciate what you have. “We got everything we need right here and everything we need is enough.”

 

  1. Poison – Nothing But A Good Time: One of those songs that just makes you want to party and forget about everything else.

 

  1. Chumbawamba – Tubthumping  (I Get Knocked Down): A great reminder to keep going whatever happens. Sometimes life is hard and you get knocked down but you should always get up again and never give up.

 

  1. Israel Kamakawiwo’ole – Somewhere Over The Rainbow/ What A Wonderful World: I decided to leave the best for last. This is possibly the most awesome song ever. It’s a mix of his amazing voice, relaxing rhythm and beautiful lyrics that just makes the whole thing perfect. You can listen to them separately as well but this medley is doubly happy.