Are you making the right changes?

Most people are afraid of changes. Having to adapt to change is one of the biggest causes of stress and anxiety.It’s obvious that big changes like moving houses or starting a new job come with a lot of pressure and difficult situations to deal with. However, even small changes like a shop closing in the neighbourhood can make people feel uncomfortable sometimes. We get attached to the things we are used to.

Even though it’s difficult, we should embrace change. It’s proven that our brains thrive on small changes to our routine. Rearrange the furniture, take a different route to work, eat something new and your brain will thank you.

There are the people (like me) who love and feel inspired by changes. The problem is when you keep looking for something eternally and is never satisfied.

Do you feel like you change cities, jobs, partners and still complains about the same problems? You might be making external changes without examining yourself first and your contribution to each situation. We actually have the tendency to look for peace outside instead of inside ourselves and this is the wrong way to approach change.

Sometimes the change we need to do is in ourselves. So I invite you to evaluate your problems and think if they’ve been repeating themselves in different situations. If so, what can you do to change not only your life but yourself?

10 Questions To Make You Think – February

A bit late but here it goes, 10 brand new questions to make you think this month.

This post is part of a sequence, you can read the other three posts here, here and here. Go to the last link if you want to understand more about this project.

  1. On a scale of one to ten, how sad are you? Why?
    One of the questions in December was the opposite of this one, it was how happy instead of how sad. This question is important because one is not exactly the opposite of the other. There’s something in the middle between being happy and sad. So even if you gave 5 for happy, it doesn’t mean you’ll give 5 for sad.

  2. What is your resolution for tomorrow?
    You can think of tomorrow as an abstract concept. What is your resolution for the future? What steps do you need to take to complete it?
  3. Are you seeking contentment or excitement?
    Again, this is one of those questions that might help you make decisions in the future. It can make you think long-term wishes rather than immediate gains.
  4. Are you in love?
    This question is important in both situations: if you’re single or  in a relationship. That’s because if you’re single and your answer is ‘yes’, you have to think about what it means to you and what you should do about it. If you’re in a relationship and your answer is ‘no’ then something is not quite right. If it’s the other way around then everything is how it should be =)
  5. What is your biggest obstacle right now?
    And what can you do to remove it? Or at least go round it.
  6. What are three things you have to buy?
    The key word here is ‘have’, not ‘want’ but ‘have’. If you really have to buy it then go ahead and do it or start saving for it. Otherwise, think twice. Do you really need it? Is it worthy of the price? You might want to write your shopping list here but try to think beyond that. Maybe you don’t really have to buy anything.
  7. Write down the cure for a broken heart.
    It might come in handy in the future. Although let’s hope not lol. This one is more for entertaining purposes.
  8. If you could change something about today, what would it be?
    Reflecting about your day and how you feel helps you reflect about yourself and what you can do to be better.
  9. What’s the most expensive thing you’re wearing now?
    This one follows the same principle of number 6. Why is it expensive? Did you buy it or was it a present? If you bought it, was it necessary to spend that much money? Or maybe you’ll find out that you haven’t spent that much money on anything at all which might make you feel better about your financial decisions.
  10. What’s the last dream you remember?
    Dreams can actually say a lot about you. No, they won’t predict your future but they represent your present. Your dreams reflect your feelings in real life. If you’ve been having nightmares, you’re probably really stressed and anxious in your daily life.