Stay Away From Negativity

Obviously being positive is very important in the search for happiness. However, this post is about external negativity not internal.

Negativity is everywhere. People complain about their lives and the world all the time, even on social networks. The news tells us about all the bad things that are happening. There are many movies and TV programs displaying horrible situations.

I understand the need to be informed about the world problems. However, we also need to be informed of the good things. When you’re fighting depression in particular, it is better to avoid these negative reminders. When we are depressed, the smallest things can trigger unhappy feelings.

Some people might disagree with this but there were times in my life when I decided to not read/watch the news. I was too overwhelmed by my own problems and I found myself crying over something that happened to somebody else on the other side of the world. There was nothing I could do about it and me reading that wouldn’t help it in any way. Sometimes we just need to take a break from all the negativity out there. You have to help yourself to be able to help others.

Let go of control

“If you can’t control it, let it go.” 

That’s my favourite zen saying.

Letting go of control is a challenge. It requires a lot of practice. The truth is that life is unstable and it’s impossible to control what’s going to happen. Sometimes we have the false impression that we are in control but the truth is we are not. Life is unpredictable and anything can happen anytime, good or bad.

We can’t control other people and we can’t control the outcome of situations so we have to stop trying or we will only get frustrated and disappointed.

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature…Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller

If we accept the way things are, we can find peace.

That doesn’t mean we should settle for less in life. If there’s something you can do to change a bad situation or make things better, do it. If there’s nothing you can do at the moment, let go.