Ready to answer some questions about yourself? These will bring you self-knowledge that is essential in order to achieve happiness.
- On a scale of one to ten, how healthy are you?
Health plays a big part on our happiness. Can you feel completely happy when you’re ill or overtired? Probably not. So make sure your health is your priority.
- What do you feel grateful for today?
The exercise of being grateful always brings great rewards. When you feel grateful, you become a more positive person which brings you and the ones around you more happiness.
- What makes you miserable?
How can you change it, get rid of it or accept it?
- What makes a good friend?
Make sure your friends have the qualities you value and you’re surrounding yourself with the kind of people that will create a positive environment of friendship.
- When was the last time you cried?
Crying is not always bad. We can cry because we are emotional or even happy. Sometimes crying is necessary to release something that is haunting you inside and you actually feel relieved. Think about the reasons why you cried and how you felt after it.
- Which family member are you closest to?
Family is very important in anyone’s life. Having a good relationship with family influences our happiness. Keep in touch with those you love.
- Is something in your way? Can you move it?
It’s always healthy to think about what’s troubling us and work to find practical solutions.
- Something that made you worry today ___________.
Reflect upon it. How much will this matter one year from now? What’s the worst that could happen? Don’t turn small things into catastrophic events.
- Did you exercise today?
This is closely related to number one. Exercise is actually proved to boost your mood and energy. When you’re feeling down, sometimes the last thing you want is to exercise. However, if you force yourself, you will feel the benefits right after it. Make time for your health.
- Who is your closest companion?
Don’t take this person for granted. Show him/ her how much you appreciate their company.
I’ve bought a book called Q&A a day. It’s a 5-year journal with one question a day to be answered each year. It’s good because it makes you think about your life at the moment and reflect on things.
Q&A a day
I know I’m a bit late but I decided to select 10 questions from November that might be useful to give you insights about yourself and what you could change or improve. They will make you think about what you’re happy with and what you need to do to achieve more happiness. I plan to post 10 questions at the end of each month.
So here are 10 questions to make you think:
- What’s your biggest expense right now?
Since we were talking about money in the last post (10 ways money can buy happiness), this question can help you think if you’re spending your money on something that’s important and worth it. Could you spend less money on that?
- What should remain as-is?
Be aware of what is good in your life right now. What if it changed? Take the time to think about how to keep it the same and how to accept and deal with it if it ends up changing.
- Where do you find pleasure?
Pleasure is not happiness but it can bring good times. Can you spare some time for your own pleasure? I’m sure you deserve it.
- What do you always avoid?
It’s important to think about why you avoid it and what consequences this might have in your life.
- Is there anything missing in your life?
It might be something possible to achieve. Why is it missing? Do you really need it? If so, what can you do to achieve it?
- What do you have to get done?
Sometimes we postpone things for silly reasons. We’re lazy or it’s hassle but there’s a huge relief in getting something done. So whatever it is, why haven’t you done it yet? Maybe you need more time, maybe you need courage, maybe you need a push.
- Who inspires you?
I think a good thing to focus on here is why this person inspires you and how you can inspire others in the same way.
- What was the last risk you took?
Risks usually teach us something. They might be scary and have a bad outcome or they might bring something amazing. Either way, you learn.
- What five words describe your mood?
Are they good or bad words? If they’re good, appreciate it. If they’re bad, how can you improve your mood?
- What song could be your self-portrait?
Songs can have special meanings. If a song is your self-portrait, it better be a positive portrait.
“People take different roads seeking fulfilment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.”
– H. Jackson Browne
There are two things to be learned from this quote:
1- We need to follow our own path. People will try to convince us that we are on the wrong path all the time. Not because they want to cause us any harm but because sometimes they really believe that. Some people fail to understand that each person has their own needs and wishes and they hardly ever will be the same as someone else’s. That’s why only we can build the way to our happiness. People can try to help but we have to really look within ourselves to find out what makes us happy. It might seem easier to join someone on their road but some of the greatest things in life don’t come easily.
2- We need to let others follow their own path. Sometimes we are the ones who fail to understand this truth. We want to help people find their ways and forget that we don’t even know what their way is. Other people’s wishes and ways might seem unnatural to us. How can they want the exact opposite of me? But we need to learn to accept this. We can’t control other people and we shouldn’t try because it will be really frustrating for them and for us. We want other people to walk the same road as us because we are afraid to walk it alone.
“People universally tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will maybe descend upon you like fine weather if you’re fortunate enough. But that’s not how happiness works. Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it.” – Eat Pray Love
I really love this quote because it explains the whole point that led me to research about happiness and consequently the reason why I have this blog. I think you need to fight for happiness and not just wait for it to fall into your lap. Sometimes that means you have to make changes. They might be big changes: quitting your job, getting a divorce, moving to another country , travelling the world. Or small changes: sleeping well, waking up earlier, taking up a course, going out more. But sometimes that fight for happiness doesn’t necessarily mean you have to actively do something. Sometimes the effort you have to make is to actually practise acceptance. Instead of fighting against your present situation, you have to accept it and make peace with it in order to find happiness.
I don’t think it’s a choice in the sense that you can just decide “I’m happy now” and you automatically become happy but I think it’s a choice to go after it.
I have been striving for happiness, reading about it, trying different things, making changes. And you might ask me: is it helping? Absolutely! I did go through a rough patch even though I was looking for happiness. I felt like giving up but I didn’t and now I’m finally reaping the rewards of my efforts. I believe that this is the meaning of the quote. You need to try hard to find happiness even if it’s not something you do consciously. Most people don’t wake up one day and think “I’m going on a search for happiness.” However, happy people have decided at some point in their lives consciously or unconsciously to go after what they want, to practise acceptance, to find contentment, etc. I believe it’s more difficult for some people than it is for others. That can happen for various reasons. Maybe your brain, your family or your circumstances don’t help but it is there for you to find. We can all get it if we try hard enough.