Let go of control

“If you can’t control it, let it go.” 

That’s my favourite zen saying.

Letting go of control is a challenge. It requires a lot of practice. The truth is that life is unstable and it’s impossible to control what’s going to happen. Sometimes we have the false impression that we are in control but the truth is we are not. Life is unpredictable and anything can happen anytime, good or bad.

We can’t control other people and we can’t control the outcome of situations so we have to stop trying or we will only get frustrated and disappointed.

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature…Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller

If we accept the way things are, we can find peace.

That doesn’t mean we should settle for less in life. If there’s something you can do to change a bad situation or make things better, do it. If there’s nothing you can do at the moment, let go.

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Happiness And Things I Learned From Buddhism

There are only two basic things that everybody wants: be happy and avoid suffering. If you think about it, all the other things are included in those two. If it’s that simple, why is it so difficult to be happy?

I’ll tell you why: because people don’t know what really makes them happy.

If something is a cause of happiness, it can never be a cause of suffering or pain. If you eat something delicious, it will bring you pleasure. If you eat it too much, it will give you a stomachache. You might love your job but if you work too much, you’ll be exhausted. And so on.

Therefore, none of these things can actually make you happy.

Nothing that you have or even that you do can make you happy. Only what you feel can bring real happiness.

You can feel love, compassion, respect, forgiveness, patience as much as you want and it will never cause you pain. Good feelings are the only true cause of happiness.